scotty

I love Scotty. I mean, how can't you love this kid? Just look at that face!

I've known Scotty since he was in diapers and I've even changed a few of those diapers on nights I babysat, when his parents went to their care group. Aaaaah, the good ol' days.

Back in 1999...

When Matt and I returned from Moscow, Russia with our chunky little son Stephen in our arms, Scotty was among the huge crowd awaiting us, in his mom's arms. I can still remember the video footage that a friend captured of Scotty reaching out and grabbing Stephen's hand, welcoming him. Both boys were just about a year old. That's when they first met - right there in BWI Airport, and they've been friends since. It's been 12 years!

As a parent, you pray that God will bless your child with a faithful friend. We prayed that for Stephen when he was just a baby and God answered our prayers and blessed us with Scotty. I say "us" because Scotty is more than just Stephen's friend; he has befriended everyone in our family.

Here's a little list of why we thank God for Scott:

1- He is extremely friendly and makes everyone feel welcome; he includes others. My 2 1/2 year old loves "Gotty," my 3 1/2 year old loves him and my 9 year old daughter loves him. They love him because he reaches out to them. He talks to them and plays with them. They feel his love and acceptance.

2- He is very thankful and I've never been in his presence when he has not thanked me for something; whether it's driving him somewhere or treating him to lunch or even teaching him literature.

3- He is joyful and just plain fun to be around.

4- He likes to talk, a lot, which is good for Stephen since he tends to be on the quiet/shy side. Scotty helps to draw Stephen out in conversation...

5. He is a major encourager. I mean, major! A few years ago when Stephen was playing baseball on the same team as Scott, I saw the gift of encouragement in action! Scott was always the first to say, "Good try" when someone struck out, or "Way to go" when someone hit the ball or caught a fly. From the first inning to the seventh inning, Scotty never slowed down in encouraging everyone on his team. Baseball didn't come natural for Stephen, he'd be the first to admit that. As parents, it was tough seeing our son strike out almost every time he was up at bat. From my place in the bleachers, I could always hear Scott's voice, encouraging Stephen.

I know from my own life that friendships change over time. People we were friends with when we were age 5, 10 or 12 are not necessarily the people we are friends with when we are 18, 25, or 40. In God's sovereignty and care for us, He blesses us with particular friends for particular seasons of our life. So while I don't know what the future holds for Stephen and Scott's friendship, I thank God for the here and now!

You are loved Scotty and we thank God for you!

these are the toes i love to eat

i can't help it, i just love to bite them!

marriage: a supreme earthly test of discipleship

One of my favorite female authors is Elisabeth Elliot. I find her writing to be straightforward, practical, and a breath of fresh air from most female authors I have read.

Having been married a total of three times (widowed twice, currently married) (+) her commitment to honoring the word of God (=) when she has something to share about life and marriage and raising children, I want to listen.

Plus - just look at her. Doesn't she just beckon you to come and sit down beside her with a hot cup of tea, ready to talk about Jesus? And wouldn't you love to look around her house, at her books and heirlooms and old photographs of life in the jungle?

My friend passed along a link to an unfinished, and previously unpublished draft of a recent book she was working on. It's title is the name of this blog entry. At first glance I admit that I didn't like the sound of it. Marriage and "test of discipleship" in the same sentence. It sounds so unromantic, so unexciting, so duty-like. But I like EE and I trust her wisdom and when she shares something, I want to listen. I printed out the 50 pages and I'm reading through it and learning quite a bit. It's not that she is saying anything new. I mean, she has written a few books that deal with marriage and I've read them. Plus - it's basic biblical theology so nothing is striking me as "new-new" if you know what I mean. But she is taking the theology of marriage and helping me see unchanging truths in a different way. In other words, it's as if the light of God's Word is beaming on the same old truths in a slightly different angle and I'm finding it thought provoking. It's making me think and I like when a book does that.

I wanted to share a quote from F.D. Maurice (1805-1872) that EE shares.

"Oh, how many times we can most of us remember when we would gladly have made any compromise with our consciences, would gladly have made the most costly sacrifices to God, if He would only have excused us from this duty of loving, of which our nature seemed utterly incapable. It is far easier to feel kindly, to act kindly, toward those with whom we are seldom brought into contact, whose tempers and prejudices do not rub against ours, whose interests do not clash with ours, than to keep up an habitual steady, self-sacrificing love toward those whose weaknesses and faults are always forcing themselves upon us, and are stirring up our own."

I dont' think you have to be married very long to know how accurate this statement is. We don't even have to be married to see the truth in this - but that's another blog entry. The lie we often believe is that loving our spouse should just come natural. After all we fell in love with this person (whatever "falling" means to you). We chose to share our lives till death separates us. Loving others requires sacrifice. It requires a relinquishing of ourselves and our rights. It puts others first, even when we feel they don't deserve it. The truth is, we don't deserve it either, but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. (Romans 5:8)

Click here if you are interested in reading the unfinished draft.

future mommy?

Yay! We finally got to meet Grace, the newest addition to the most proud parents, Brian and Amy Smith. She is a beautiful little 3 month old; very smiley and happy, not to mention a pretty sound sleeper!

Being in the presence of a baby is about the only thing that seems to calm down our 2 1/2 year old. Our typically crazy-wild, bursting forth with energy little girl, actually slows down and shows a surprising gentleness when a baby enters the scene. I'm always nervous as she approaches a baby, but again and again, I see that she is capable of gentleness.

Since Amy, Brian and Grace visited us, our little girl has taken a fresh interest in her baby doll.

Check out her mad skills in swaddling and holding a baby:

Step One: Lay baby gently on blanket

Step Two: Pull bottom and then sides together to cover baby

Step Three: Roll baby up like a burrito ??

Step Four: Wa-La! Now that's one happy baby.

If she would've stopped there, it would have been nearly perfect. Step Two was a little shaky as she rolled the baby onto her stomach to wrap her...but bringing it all together is a tough step.

What really concerned me was how she held the baby after she posed for this picture. Notice the feet. This can't be good.

Mom: "Azaria, hold the baby so I can see her."

This is what I got:

Tuesdays with Stephen: Chapter 1

Since you will be spending every Tuesday with me, I might as well introduce my self to you.

My name is Stephen Smith I am a big brother to 3 kids (1 brother, 2 sisters). I will be a teenager in about 6 months.

The following is a list of random things about me.

1. I love to make videos on iMovie.

2. If you are looking for me I am usually under i pile of legos.

3. I need a haircut

4. I would like to have a cell phone

5. I will attend the Grafted Families Adoption Conference on Nov. 6.

6. I attend Grace Community Church and I am a helper in Kindergarten class.

7. I hope my mom gives me her iPod touch. I love all things Apple!!

8. I made an apple pie last night and it was amazing. (even Dad ate some and he LOVES pumpkin pie).

9. I would like to go to Uganda, Africa one day w/ my mom :D

10. My top three favorite songs are (not in order): "One Day"by Vicky Beeching, "The Saving One" by Starfield, and "The Veil" by David Crowder Band.

AND THATS A WARP... I MEAN WRAP.

a new beginning

ha. I know, it's been over four months since I've blogged a single word.

It's not that I haven't had some ingenious ideas or semi-brilliant thoughts to pass along to my two readers. It's just that with everything else to get done, sitting at my iMac to blog hasn't made the cut.

Sometimes it takes a new look to get your blogging juices going again. Sometimes it takes reading blogs from your other favorite sites that give you ideas. Sometimes it's a pesky 12 year old that wants a blog of his own. ;-)

Today starts what I will dramatically call...."Upward and Outward: A New Beginning." I can almost hear the background music but our 2 1/2 year old is screaming in her crib!

Anyway, have any of you read the book "Tuesdays with Morrie"? I have and I liked it, but that's not the point. On this little blog, Tuesdays will be called, "Tuesdays with Stephen". This will be my 12 year old's opportunity to take over and blog till his fingers can't take anymore.

i almost said it.

I almost said it.  Almost.

Yep, that infamous sentence that we all heard as kids growing up, when we didn’t like our parent’s decision on a particular matter.  Remember it?

“When you get older and live on your own, you can do what you want to do.  BUT, as long as you live under our roof, you are to listen to our rules!”

It all came down when I discovered that a particular child exploded a bomb in his room, sending a mixture of clean and dirty clothes across the floor, scattering toys everywhere, leaving drawers half open with items hanging out, numerous books falling off of shelves and...well...you get the picture... It was a mess with a capital “M”.

Like any irritable mother who wants to keep her home tidy and presentable, I began ranting on what a pig stye his room had become.  Amidst my many, many, descriptive words to get my passionate point across, I was careful to throw in a few biblical terms like stewardship and order vs. chaos.  I admit that I was not erring on the side of graciousness and kindness.  This was a pattern and I had “had it.”

My child listened and didn’t even disagree with the assessment.  There was no arguing that the room was a mess, but the question of whether or not our standards were too high, was raised.  This child didn’t question me in a disrespectful manner at all.  It was a simple statement that indicated that perhaps our expectation of what “clean” looks like is a bit unreasonable.

I listened.  I paused.  And that’s when the sentence almost came out of my mouth.

Even as I swallowed back the almost words, two things came to mind:

1- This is such a tempting statement to make to your children.

2- At the heart of it, the statement is not a good one to ever make.

What parent hasn’t felt at one point or another that they are at the end of their rope? Nothing has gone as expected all day long, there is one setback after another, and just when your day seems to be taking an unexpected pleasant turn, you discover a pig stye around the corner.  That’s all it took for me.

I began thinking through the statement, “When you get older and live on your own, you can do what you want to do.  BUT, as long as you live under our roof, you are to listen to our rules.”

At first glance it can seem like a true and even reasonable statement.  Unfortunately, I have yet to ever hear this statement made apart from an irritated, exasperated, or angry tone.  But setting the tone aside, I sought to unpack these words to see what actually lived within them.

In the next day or two, I will share what I came up with personally.